...the "One"

I used to think that life was about finding the "One" person who would be perfect in every way - who would fit every little detail on my "list" and match me like a puzzle piece. Basically, I'd been waiting for the "One" who would complete me and give me a love like no other.


My beliefs led me to overlook the perfect love of Christ I already possessed. Colossians 2:10 says: "You have been given fullness in Christ," and Psalm 34:9-10 declares that "those who fear [the Lord] lack nothing. The lions may grow weak and hungry, but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing."

Christ is the "One" who completes me, and in Him I lack nothing. Like a pastor of mine recently said: "Jesus+nothing=everything."

Where does that leave us, then, when it comes to our search for earthly love? Should we even desire to marry, or is that selfish and sinful? Does the pursuit of marriage mean we deem God's love insufficient to meet all of our needs?

From the very beginning of creation, God knew that "It is not good for man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18). Eden was filled with many animals, but God knew none of them would fully suit Adam, so He said "I will make a helper suitable for him."

And so, from Adam's own flesh, God created woman. He designed the two to be together, to become one and enjoy each other. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh," (Genesis 2:24).

Although Jesus completes us, God made man and woman to complement each other while they live on the earth.

A little over a year ago, I wrote in my journal: "I've not been searching for a love/relationship to fill me; I've already been filled with the perfect love of God. I want to enter into a relationship to love that person with the love God has shown me, because I was made to love."

I understood that a relationship with someone would not complete me; that person would not be the "One," but a part of THE "One's" marvelous love for me - not the all-encompassing love itself.

When God took a piece of flesh from Adam's side, it did not make Adam suddenly incomplete; God did, though, use that flesh to create a wonderful partner to complement Adam. He gave Adam Eve so the two could enjoy the beautiful garden together and share the joy of God's splendor and love together.

It must give God a lot of joy when He sees two people He created marveling at His love and rejoicing in Him together. When He sees two people sharing the joy of love together, how can that not give Him joy, too?


More thoughts to come.....